It does not make you less of a man to admit that you’re afraid of approaching girls. It probably scares the hell out of you. It is okay so say so. No man is immune to the rejection of a woman, all fear it.
When it comes to approaching girls there are two ways you can do it:
Way to Approach Girls 1 – Plan How to Open and How To Exit This will take a lot of pressure off you because you will not need to scramble for what to say next. A well timed exit strategy is also very important if the conversation is not flowing well to avoid those awkward silences.
Approach 2: Just do! Don’t Think! This may seem like a crazy and over-simplistic method, but eventually, this is where you want to be with your confidence. Admit it, if you have to preplan in your brain every time you see a girl you want to approach you’re going to be thinking about it while some other guy is doing it!
Take these four tips with you no matter which approach you decide to take
#1 Tip to Approach Girls: Game On! The game starts the minute you come into view of the girl you want to approach. You should be properly dressed for the venue, even better than the other guys. You need to make sure your attire is sending her the right signals. Stand up straight, pull your shoulders back and push your chest forward. Looking confident and relaxed in your body language will help the available women who are secretly scouting out attractive men find you even easier.
Tip 2 to Approach Girls: It’s okay to be choosy! Choose Wisely! Ask yourself several questions: Is she alone? Is she with other guys/girls? Does she look available? Is she preoccupied with other things? Know that the attractive women are usually not by themselves. This might make her a harder target, but also a more worthwhile target.
Approach Girls Tip #3 – Eye Contact First! Unless you’re the guy who spilt mustard on his shirt, a woman who maintains good eye contact with you for a few seconds or looks more than once in your direction is displaying definite interest. While it may not always be possible to obtain, eye contact prior to the approach should always be attempted. Just make sure you’re not staring like a creep, just appearing confident.
Tip 4 to Approach Girls: Smiles = Confidence! If your smile is genuine, she will smile back at you. Make sure that when you make eye contact you are smiling! If she doesn’t smile back, don’t be alarmed. Watch her subtlety to see if she keeps glancing back at you. If she does, even if she didn’t smile, she is expecting you to approach her. Just make sure the look on her face isn’t “Oh God I hope he doesn’t come over here.” That one is an easy read.
Women want you to make the first move!! REMEMBER, WOMEN WILL NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!
Once you’ve achieve the approach, listen INTENTLY to what she has to say so that you can respond intelligently and keep the conversation flowing instead of just nodding blankly.
Last piece of advice: If you’re comfortable, she will be comfortable with you. Good luck, and don’t take it too seriously!!
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